Keep a stiff upper lip
/kiːp ə stɪf ˌʌpə ˈlɪp/informalUK · US
What does “Keep a stiff upper lip” mean?
Keep a stiff upper lip means to remain outwardly calm and brave when things are difficult
Someone may keep a stiff upper lip while receiving disappointing news in front of other people. They may still be deeply upset.
As advice, it can sound like an instruction to hide emotion. “I’m here if you want to talk” may be kinder when someone is struggling.
When do people say it?
Often associated with an old-fashioned ideal of not showing distress. It can praise composure, but may sound dismissive when someone needs support.
“She kept a stiff upper lip when the competition results were announced.”
Is it formal or informal?
Register: informal. It is most at home in everyday conversation rather than formal writing. Most common in UK and US.
Where does it come from?
The image is of holding the lip steady instead of letting it tremble with emotion. It describes visible self-control rather than a lack of feeling.
Origin confidence: Disputed; treat with caution
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Last updated 2026-11-13