Have it both ways
/hæv ɪt bəʊθ weɪz/informalUK · US
What does “Have it both ways” mean?
Have it both ways means to get the benefits of two incompatible choices
You may want a quiet flat and also want to hold loud parties there. Saying you cannot have it both ways points out the conflict.
It is more critical than “the best of both worlds”, which celebrates benefits that can work together. This phrase usually says the combination is unfair or unrealistic.
When do people say it?
Often used in “you can’t have it both ways” to point out a trade-off. Explain which two benefits cannot go together.
“You want complete privacy but a public fan club; you can't have it both ways.”
Is it formal or informal?
Register: informal. It is most at home in everyday conversation rather than formal writing. Most common in UK and US.
Where does it come from?
The two “ways” are competing choices. The phrase pictures someone trying to take both while avoiding the need to choose.
Origin confidence: Disputed; treat with caution
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Last updated 2026-10-01