Butter someone up
/ˈbʌtə ˈsʌmwʌn ʌp/informalUK · US
What does “Butter someone up” mean?
Butter someone up means to praise someone because you want them to do something for you.
Someone buttering you up has a reason for all those compliments. They might want to borrow your car or ask you to do a favour.
The praise needn't be false, but it has a purpose. With a pronoun, say “butter me up,” not “butter up me.”
When do people say it?
Use it when a compliment seems to be leading up to a request for help, permission or a favour.
“You're only buttering me up because you want to borrow the car.”
Is it formal or informal?
Register: informal. It is most at home in everyday conversation rather than formal writing. Most common in UK and US.
Where does it come from?
The image compares flattering words to a pleasant coating of butter. The expression's exact beginnings are uncertain.
Origin confidence: Disputed; treat with caution
How do you say “Butter someone up” in other languages?
Related idioms
- Pull the wool over someone's eyes, Deceive someone or conceal the truth.
- Pull someone's leg, To tease someone playfully.
Last updated 2026-09-16